~ The Mirror’s Edge ~

((Posted for Jingle Poetry’s Week 27 Poetry Potluck. The theme this week is Lies, Deception and Misrepresentation. To me, the worst deception is self-deception, and it’s easy to do. They say the mirror never lies, but it does. And it misrepresents the ‘truth’.))

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Is a woman’s soul bound to the mirror’s glass?
Her identity trapped in the image she sees?
Is it tied to the reflection which disgusts her eyes?
Brainwashed into believing society’s lies?

When less than outer perfection is shown,
That inner critic can be so unkind.
This shell, this body, I’d like to disown;
Seems like it’s always “too fat” in this mind.

When diet and exercise fail to cause change,
A woman starts looking for other recourse.
How many women have died from those pills?
Convinced they would cure all their self-image ills?

Why can’t we be satisfied with ourselves?
Can our minds and our bodies ever be friends?
Striving to be the women on magazine shelves,
Driven to extremes and unhealthy ends.

Speak not to me of shallow double standards,
This looking-glass prisoner knows all too well,
If women’s worth is only a surface virtue of skin,
Then how to find peace with these bodies we’re in?

There are those who say they don’t mind a plump form,
Who seem so accepting of our real women’s curves,
But see if they’re willing to give up their porn,
And the truth is revealed, for the purpose it serves.

Love and Lust are two very different things.
Why can’t a woman be deserving of both?
We can love the women that we are inside.
But lust is for women who never have to hide

From the mirror’s edge.

~ C.L.R. ~ © 2008

About dragonkatet

Regarding the blog name, Dragon’s Dreams ~ The name comes from my love-affairs with both Dragons and Dreams (capital Ds). It’s another extension of who I am, a facet for expression; a place and way to reach other like-minded, creative individuals. I post poetry and images that fascinate or move me, because that’s my favorite way to view the world. I post about things important to me and the world in which we live, try to champion extra important political, societal and environmental issues, etc. Sometimes I wax philosophical, because it’s also a place where I always seem to learn about myself, too, by interacting with some of the brightest minds, souls and hearts out there. It’s all about ‘connection(s)’ and I don’t mean “net-working” with people for personal gain, but rather, the expansion of the 4 L’s: Light, Love, Laughter, Learning.
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16 Responses to ~ The Mirror’s Edge ~

  1. bendedspoon says:

    Perfect poem for so many lies thrown — for many women in pain.
    Great that you add the 2nd to the last stanza — the liars that subject the women to pain or is it really us? 🙂

  2. dragonkatet says:

    Thanks, spoon. I think the pain is caused by a combination of things. Self-acceptance is very hard. It is made harder in our culture because of things like what I mentioned in that stanza. Thanks for taking the time to comment. 🙂

  3. Absolutely wise and true. Many girls suffer in trying to reach perfection, not realizing perfection is in the soul … not in the body!

  4. Jingle says:

    divine words..
    well put.

    we always struggle in between, cheers.

  5. lolamouse says:

    Amen, sister! You nailed it with the porn reference and with the love/lust dichotomy. Excellent write!

  6. Luke Prater says:

    painful… tough stuff. That image.. ouch. I appreciate that you tackle some pertinent issues in your work. I like to do this also (or try anyway)


    Luke @ WordSalad

    • dragonkatet says:

      Many thanks, Luke. Awareness is a great thing. If things I write can bring about awareness on issues and maybe make the world a better place, somehow, then I’m all about that. 🙂 Yeah, I’d say your work tackles some tough issues, as well. Thanks for stopping by!

  7. Bodhirose says:

    This is a huge issue for girls and women. Now we are seeing even very tiny girls saying they are too fat and are worrying about their looks. We need to change this unhealthy way of looking at ourselves and the pressures we place on each other too.

    Hooray for you for speaking out about it so eloquently here. I applaud you!

    (And thank you for the Versatile Blogger Award–I have added your name to my list–you can see my award page here: bodhirose.wordpress.com/2011/03/12/the-versatile-blogger-award/)

    • Dragon Ka-Tet says:

      Thanks, Bodhi! I know several young women affected by eating disorders and self-image problems, mainly because of the media indoctrination of the unrealistic “ideal” in this country, and it makes me SO angry. It would be easy to blame it on the male-driven society, except that women perpetuate it, too. Writing about it is one way to get rid of some of the anger and if it can bring awareness of it to the attention of others, then that’s a great thing. 🙂

  8. eebrinker says:

    speaking to my Phd cousin, he seems to believe that the “mirror” and looking for a reflection, is the actual ‘apple’ that eve partook-of. lol …. thing that has hit me lately, is that mirror is NOT a true reflection, because it’s reversed. which we only THINK is the same when it’s not. because of our bi-lateral symmetry. if i look at my cat in the mirror, it looks like a different cat! that reflection is DEFINITELY not her.

    because that stands out with a calico, when you are accustomed to their appearance with the black patch over one eye, rather than the other. so in the same way, the reflection is DEFINITELY not what other people “see.” it just isn’t. will it make that big a difference? yep — something turned inside out is different. lol ………. so last month i took my paintings, and covered every bit of “extra” mirror lining the walls above the sink. keep one small one to make sure my hair isn’t too out-of-place.

    anywho …… that was what i decided. because it does become a matter of being a ‘slave’ to that image. and i’m not sure what that does or the outcome … but it can’t be good.

    when you finally find yourself breaking the habit, of looking up to catch your image after washing your hands ………

    there are all kinds of addictions. and it’s not like they don’t put huge mirrors in every bathroom and on closets and everywhere. like they like to torment women with the mesmerizing-factor. if i wanted to think of ‘big bad evil.’ almost too apparent in scopes of mendacity. but i prefer to choose stupid and ignorant over determined and mean.

    stephen donaldson wrote a fantasy that begins with mirrors …. read that a long time ago. The Mirror of Her Dreams …. maybe it’s time to read it again.

    hope you are having a good week ……… thanks for taking the time to write. always a pleasure

    • Dragon Ka-Tet says:

      That’s so true, E. That reverse image *isn’t* the real thing. I think that was a brilliant way to cover your mirrors! I should do something similar, except I don’t have wonderful paintings like yours to make mine pretty. 😉 Haven’t read that book, but looked at a blurb about it and it looks like something I’d enjoy. Thanks for the thoughtful comment and dropping by.

  9. Bodhirose says:

    You brought up a good point, one that I have thought of for a long time. When we look in the mirror we are actually seeing a reversed image of ourselves. I always wondered what “I” really looked like! Not very important though is it?

    What a great experiment–blocking out most of the mirror so you won’t be tempted to critique yourself too closely. Great idea–kudos to you!

    Have a good weekend! xoxo

    • eebrinker says:

      hey thanks! you too ….

      and mostly i have lost weight this month according to my jeans! don’t know that that’s mirror-related, but interesting.

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