Steel Hearts…A Ponderance

It’s been said that “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” Sometimes, just to survive life’s tests takes more than luck or skill. At times, it requires extreme courage ~ to be wise and strong enough to make the right choice, even if it breaks our hearts. To be far-sighted enough, intuitive enough, to make the best choice for the future. But to also be near-sighted enough to recognize the pain we might have to endure to get there. And be brave enough to face it anyway. It may, at times, hurt so much that we wish the test would kill us.

Trial by Fire ~ to endure and survive is to become tempered, like the steel that is folded hundreds of times. We survive, and we sometimes learn, if we are lucky. There are times when the lesson escapes us, and we must be tempered, folded, again and again…in the hopes that we finally learn and are stronger for the knowledge.
Each one of us has different trials and tests to face in life, unique to us as individuals, and yet, most are lessons in humanity: what it means to be human. No situation is so unique that someone, somewhere, at some time, has not had to deal with the exact same problem. How we deal with it determines if the lesson sticks.“What does not kill us makes us stronger.” Hearts can be broken, over and over, but in the end, what does not forever still the passion inside, makes the heartbeat stronger, louder…and ultimately wiser.

It has also been said that “The hardest part of holding on…is letting go”. The more often you have to let go of things or people that you love, the harder it seems to get to hold on to them, in my experience. But the concept is still true, none the less. We never truly “own” anything, except ourselves and our actions or reactions to the rest of the world. I’m not talking about material possessions, either. I’m talking about the things which really matter in this world…pets, friends, family, mates…people.

“Ownership” or “possession” is simply an illusion of this world. And control is the penultimate illusion, because the only person you can control is you. And even then…you have to be able to “let go” of that control sometimes, in order to discover what is truly worth “holding on to” in your life. So many times, we don’t discover what’s important, what’s really worth holding on to in life, until it’s already too late. And while the lesson may finally “stick”, it comes at the high price of loss.

So the Steel Heart gets wiser and stronger. But with that wisdom and knowledge has to come acceptance – of the fact that nothing lasts forever. And with that acceptance comes sadness, because it means that Robert Frost was right when he said “Nothing gold can stay.” THAT is the lesson. Nothing lasts forever, whether it’s a family bond, a friendship or a relationship…and in order to have anything “real”, you have to accept that it will at some point be gone or changed forever. You’ll have to “let it go”. It never really “belonged” to you in the first place.

Steel Hearts are the strongest and truest. They have had to be, in order to survive. But I also think, sometimes, that they are the saddest.

About dragonkatet

Regarding the blog name, Dragon’s Dreams ~ The name comes from my love-affairs with both Dragons and Dreams (capital Ds). It’s another extension of who I am, a facet for expression; a place and way to reach other like-minded, creative individuals. I post poetry and images that fascinate or move me, because that’s my favorite way to view the world. I post about things important to me and the world in which we live, try to champion extra important political, societal and environmental issues, etc. Sometimes I wax philosophical, because it’s also a place where I always seem to learn about myself, too, by interacting with some of the brightest minds, souls and hearts out there. It’s all about ‘connection(s)’ and I don’t mean “net-working” with people for personal gain, but rather, the expansion of the 4 L’s: Light, Love, Laughter, Learning.
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8 Responses to Steel Hearts…A Ponderance

  1. The sad truth! From a steel heart to another steel heart, thank you for this post! Loved the music too!

  2. eebrinker says:

    beautiful thoughts …. important to realize the world won’t end if we let a bit of it slide-by minus the angst and planning. i did a painting … biggest one i ever made …. with “let it go” …. spent like two days in front of it drinking and crying over my kids. then three years later i’m at my son’s wedding and hugging him for the first time in almost 15 years. one thing i can’t get around is the not having my grandma to talk-to.

    • dragonkatet says:

      Thanks, E. Know what you mean about not having the gran to talk to…as much as a person can get to a place of acceptance, there are still times when the pang of missing someone so important can be almost overwhelming.

  3. Jo Bryant says:

    what a profound and beautiful post Corina…really beautiful

  4. wightrabbit says:

    Powerful sentiments, expressed in an original, and easy-to-understand way. I particularly like the concept that we never actually own anything, or anybody; that we are only responsible for ourselves and our reactions – and we have the power to choose them. Not easy when under pressure but I’m just accepting that my steel heart is the product of my life experiences. And I probably wouldn’t change a thing. Thank you Corina (beautiful name!)

    • dragonkatet says:

      Aw, thank YOU for such a nice comment. 🙂 I agree with you about changing things, even the bad things, as it makes us who we are today. I wish that sometimes the lessons didn’t have to be so hard, but from pain comes growth, so I have learned to try and look at each painful experience as a chance for growth, which is almost always a good thing.

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